An deeper understanding of your differences, and a trailmap on releasing judgment of those differences. I will support you both in seeing and understanding your person more clearly. You will remember what drew you to them in the first place, and recognize the power and role of each of your distinct personalities as you move through life together.

A safe place to learn how to speak to each other differently.
I will shape your interactions in real time to make them more functional, loving, and connective. You will not have the same argument in my office over and over again, because I will show you how to do it differently, while we are live and “on air.”

Support in how to have the difficult conversations. I don’t sidestep the tough stuff. If your sex life is flat, let’s talk about it. If one of you is ambivalent about commitment, I will support you in airing it honestly. We will practice this in my office and I will also teach you how to communicate more directly outside of therapy. My aim is to help your connection feel more intimate, connective, and safe.

An exploration of attachment styles. If you need space after an argument and your partner needs to sort it out immediately, we will work to explore how your attachment styles may be impacting well-trodden dynamics and creating the same fight over and over again.

Clarity on whether it’s truly the right fit. My primary aim is to support you both in an honest exploration of whether you both want to work for your connection, and if you do, we will fight for it! If I see impasses that feel like non-negotiables for either of you, I will point this out with honesty to help you consider what path would serve you both best. I’ll encourage you to create boundaries and prioritize yourselves as individuals, while also nourishing the connection to see if there’s a hopeful outcome.